Do you dream of shining, taking your place, and getting rid of your impostor syndrome? But every time you're ready to take the plunge, that little voice in your head pops up: "Are you sure you're legitimate? Look, you forgot to reply to that email again! Come on, take a breath!
In Playing Big, Tara Mohr gives you the keys to packing up that nagging voice and finally revealing yourself. I'm going to combine our lessons so that you can play big AND with style.
It all starts with stopping seeking validation from others (yes, even your mother-in-law).
10 Keys to Sending Heavy and Raising Your Conscience
- Silence your inner critic
You know that voice that whispers "But you're not competent enough for that! Tara Mohr says: isolate it, listen to it with compassion and move on. PODnow® recommends ‘Pause and Observe’: observe that voice, don't judge it, but don't give it the keys to the house. - Listen to your inner mentor
Imagine yourself in 10 years' time, badass, fulfilled and full of wisdom. What would she say to you? Certainly not to stay stuck in doubt. At PODnow® we call it ‘Love Yourself First (100)’. Connect to your true nature and trust yourself. - Detach yourself from criticism and applause
Tara says: Stop seeking approval from others. PODnow® goes one better with ‘Expect Nothing in Return (0)’. Whether people like you or not, do what you do because it speaks to YOU. - Face your fears with panache
Fear of failure? Fear of judgement? Who cares? Mohr encourages you to move forward despite everything. And PODnow® adds: move forward, but do so with awareness. You don't have to climb Everest all at once, just one hill at a time. - Go from ‘good girl’ to assertive woman
Stop being the one who says "No, it's all right, I'll take care of it ’ when you're bubbling over. Tara says: set your limits, dare to say no. At PODnow®, it's the concept of ‘Respect Relationships (100x)’: set limits to protect your energy and stay authentic. You can say ‘Yes, and...’ and ask for time, help, resources, training, etc. You can say ‘Yes, and...’ and ask for time, help, resources, training, etc. - Find your calling (and listen to it)
You know that thing that makes you tick? That project you've been putting off for years? Tara and I agree: it's time to put it on the table. Connect with your ‘why’ and start small, but start. - Take the plunge
Taking a leap is scary but exciting, a bit like sending a voicemail to your crush. Tara urges you to take calculated risks, and PODnow® says: do it while making sure you respect your purpose and values, then let yourself be surprised by life's gifts. - Speak with confidence
No more ‘Sorry, but...’ and ‘Maybe it's silly, but...’. Tara wants you to clean up your language and speak with clarity. PODnow® adds: be yourself, but practice active listening and empathy. In short, express your ideas with confidence and without blushing. - Surround yourself with the right people
There's no need to inflict yourself on the eternal killjoys. Tara tells you to create a community that supports you. - Reinvent success on YOUR terms
Tara advises you to stop chasing socially dictated goals. PODnow® goes further: align your success with your values, and ask yourself every day, ‘Am I living what really matters to me?’
3 Immediate Actions to Start Playing Big
- Identify a fear and move forward regardless
- Choose a fear that's blocking you and take a small step in its direction.
- Example: Dare to ask for a raise (or at least start writing your sales pitch).
- Choose a fear that's blocking you and take a small step in its direction.
- Consult your inner mentor
- Every morning, take 5 minutes to ask your ‘future self’ what she would do.
- Example: If you're reluctant to embark on a project, visualise yourself as a superwoman and ask: ‘What would she do in my place?’
- Every morning, take 5 minutes to ask your ‘future self’ what she would do.
- Revisit your definition of success
- Write down three things that really make you tick and ask yourself how you can incorporate them into your daily life.
- Example: If ‘autonomy’ is important to you, take action this week to move towards greater freedom.
- Write down three things that really make you tick and ask yourself how you can incorporate them into your daily life.
Conclusion
Come on, you're done playing small. With Tara Mohr, we're giving you everything you need to take back the reins, get rid of your doubts and create a life that's just like you. So what do you do? Do you sit back and wait for everything to fall from the sky, or do you get out there and play it big?
We're watching you, champion. The next big step is waiting for you... and you're ready. 🚀